Victim or Victor

Victim or Victor

Okay, this is where my facebook friend count goes down. A lot of you will probably become upset with me about what you are about to read, but the truth is that until you grasp the veracity in the statement you are about to read, you will never excel and move into the life of excess, joy and true satisfaction you so desperately seek.

At some point in time you are going to have to stop being the victim long enough to become the victor. As long as you are fixed on what someone else has done to you or how someone else is holding you back, you will never truly overcome your deficit in life. The truth is your unwillingness to move forward and let go is holding you back.

As long as your day is filled with talk about the boss that passed you over for the promotion, you will never truly ascend. If your thoughts are filled with the reasonings of why your mother treated you the way she did and how it has negatively impacted your life, you have relinquished your power to overcome. If you spend your time contemplating the girl that broke your heart and stepped on your kindness, you have stifled your power. Stop being the victim and soon thereafter you will find the power to become the victor.

Let me explain something to you. If you were to truly study what the Bible teaches about forgiveness, you will find that forgiveness is not the benefactor of the one being forgiven, but the one that offers it. Forgiveness releases the person that offers it from the shackles of emotional, mental, and even physical oppression. Now let me drop this truth on you: Forgiveness means letting it go. As long as you are holding something against someone, they are indebted to you for that which you are holding against them; however, as long as you hold on it enslaves you, not them. If you spend your life waiting for the fall of the person that wronged you, you will miss the door of opportunity that has opened for you. The crazy thing is the person that did the wrong often repents and moves on and advances while you wallow in your bitterness. It is not your job to monitor their plight; it is your responsibility to overcome yours. If you are still entertaining what they have done, you have not let go. If you have not let go, you are not in power, the thing that you are holding on to is. Also, forgiveness is a cornerstone of gratitude. I told you a couple of days ago about the importance and powerful impact of a grateful heart. An unforgiving heart is not a heart of gratitude, but one of resentment. There is a reason the Bible teaches us to let go. Jesus even goes to the point of saying that unforgiveness blocks the efficacy of our prayers (Mark 11:25).

You can continue to talk about what others have done to you; you can continue to spend your days contemplating all that has befell you, and you will continue to be a victim. The alternative is that you can understand that your choices, not the choices of others will determine the path you take and your progression, if any, on life’s continuum and become a victor. You cannot control what someone does, more importantly; you cannot change what someone has already done. Your growth, advancement, and power comes from how you respond to the adversity brought by others. God allowed it for a reason; you have to be intimately connected to His will for your life to see Him in all that has transpired. God allowed your trials to enhance and prepare you for the abundance of blessing he desires to shower upon you, but you have allowed the enemy to press you into a state of futility by holding on to what has been done.

This is not, in anyway, suggesting that you allow people to continuously mistreat you. That would be foolish and not reflective of Christian wisdom. However, you have to choose not to own (take possession of) what the devil has tossed in your lap. If someone mistreated you, that is a reflection of them, but how you respond to it is a reflection of you. Own your response knowing that you serve a God that causes all things to work out for your good. When you truly begin to understand this, you will not have a desire to wallow in the muck and mire of the mess the enemy sent to destroy you.

When you truly learn to forgive and let go, you will begin to see things clearer and understand that a lot of what you had been seeing as a destructive force in your life is actually God subtly nudging you away from a position or place you didn’t belong in, normally toward something greater.

Remember, Christians don’t respond and behave the way that those of the world do. Make up in your mind that you will no longer be the victim. You will not give power to anything that is not of God. I guarantee you that when you let go of all that excess baggage; when you stop pointing the finger; when you cease from your “Oh Woe is Me” ballads; when you stop feeding the sorrow through consistent communication of what has already happened; you will find the power to rise. Understand that every time that you mention the negative you are acknowledging its power in and over your life. If you are truly walking in the power of God, you need not be concerned with what someone else is doing because you know that “No weapon formed against you shall prosper”.

Dr. Rick Wallace

If you examine your life and it seems that it has been filled with people that have taken advantage of you in one form another, it indicates that you have taken on a victim’s role. You have given power to the actions of others without acknowledging the power of God working in you. I am not saying that you will not be attacked; trust me, you will be (sometimes you will be hit so hard it will knock the wind out of you); I am simply saying that the attacks will serve to elevate you instead of enslave you. If you are honest enough to admit that you have been doing this, you can take hold of the power to change your position and walk into your destiny. If not, you will continue to be the victim, sharing your story with all that will listen about how life has stepped on your throat.
Are you a victim or a VICTOR? You choose. ~ Dr. Rick Wallace